Hello friend, I hope you’re keeping well.
Apologies for the radio silence. I’ve been experiencing a few inner shifts these past couple of weeks and wanted to let it all pass through. The irony of having to pause is not lost on me, but I’m feeling more fresh and excited to continue writing now. 😌
For those who are new here, this article is part of a twelve-article series about how to heal and awaken in a way that is safe, sound, and real. So far, I’ve discussed four qualities that are helpful in this work–patience, community, knowledge, and skepticism.
Today’s message is short and to the point.
Day 5: Walking away
If you feel like you’re trapped in your own life, like you can’t fully engage with life where you are, you might just have to walk away from something or someone.
It might be a career path, a job, a relationship, a location, a religion, a belief-system, or something else altogether. Unfortunately, people often wait till things get unbearable before they address a dissonant situation.
To offer a personal example, I walked away from a 12-year romantic relationship only when my mental and physical health had begun to decline to the point of me feeling half-alive. Many hours were spent pondering the reason for my existence–perhaps to become a vessel for future progeny? I stepped away only when it felt like I had tried everything and I had no other choice but to leave. It wasn’t easy, but afterwards life could breathe through me once again.
If you’ve been waffling on whether to walk away from something, please don’t wait till you are at your wits’ end or you fall sick like I did–otherwise, realignments towards the truth can happen abruptly (as so many of us have been discovering these past few years).
It might feel painful or scary initially, but each move is a redirection towards higher levels of wholeness, freedom, and fluidity. 🧡 We begin to drop expectations around the “right” way for life to proceed and to recognize how made-up those expectations are to begin with. Then we can see more clearly what is our true path forward, because we’re not limited by ideas or scripts handed down to us. And this is exciting and allows our lives to unfold in beautiful ways.
Of course the mind will fight fiercely to keep you stuck in its prison cage by making each act of walking away seem larger or more dramatic than it is. It will tell you that other people have the conditions right for walking away while you don’t, or that other people are misguided or unable to understand the realities of life, or that you just need to hit that next career goal before you allow yourself to explore your innate gifts. It will do whatever it takes to keep you stuck in a very limited version of reality. Because it doesn’t want you to live life fully.
As long as you’re not escaping or avoiding a situation, consider whether walking away might be the best course of action. You can walk away with love, respect, and care.
Much love and thank you for being here.
Anubha
P.S. I didn’t talk about awakening above. Those of you on that path already know that it gets very very hard if we don’t learn how to walk away.
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So nice that you are back.
As much as anyone wants, it's so difficult to walk away, as some others depend on you and the fear of your probable guilt that you might end up destroying someone else's life as well... It's such a burdensome choice to make ..